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Interracial Dating Double Standards
Monday, July 17, 2006
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When a White woman is dating a Black man she is "disgracing herself and tainting White Blood". When a Black woman is dating a White man, she is "getting her swirl on". When a Black man is dating a White woman he is "betraying Black women and selling out". When a White man is dating a Black woman he is the greatest thing next to God.

I had a conversation some time ago with an acquaintance of mine who was marveling over a White male client of hers and the fact that he was in a custody dispute trying to get custody of his bi-racial daughter from the child's Black mother. She felt that this client deserved medals for what he was doing, which to her wasn't a simple case of a man fighting for custody of the child he took part in conceiving, but a White man fighting for custody of a little Black girl.

Astounded by the suggestion that this man should be given extra praise on the grounds that he was a White man fighting for custody of a bi-racial girl who in the eyes of the world is "Black", I asked whether or not the same praise would be deserved if it were a Black man fighting for custody of his bi-racial daughter, and I was told without hesitation that if a Black man fought for custody of his bi-racial daughter, it would not have the same element of heroism. Suddenly the bi-racial child in this scenario became a half-white girl whereas in the case of the White father/Black mother, the child was a Black girl. And when a Black man fights for custody of a Half-White girl, he is only doing so because it enhances his own worth to be father to a half-White girl. When a White man fights for custody of a child he has with a Black woman, he is doing a little Black child a favor and should be admired for this act of altruism.

There is a similar attitude where White mothers of bi-racial children and Black mothers of bi-racial children is concerned. A White woman with half-White/half-Black children is often looked at as having degraded herself. Her children are usually seen as half-breeds in a negative sense, whereas, a Black woman with half-White/half-Black children is seen as trying to elevate and better herself, and her children are usually seen as evidence of her good fortune. Bi-racial children with White fathers are thought to have an advantage by having a White man's blood, while bi-racial children with Black fathers are thought to have a disadvantage by having a Black man's blood. Black mothers of bi-racial children will usually feel great pride to have had a child with a White man, while White mothers are usually made to feel that they should be ashamed to have had a child with a Black man.

Overall, there appears to be a tendency to regard interracial relationships between Black men and White women as contributing to the destruction of both the White race and the Black race, while interracial relationships between White men and Black women are thought to be a positive step in the direction of building a truly integrated society.

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